Early relational trauma and my gradual awakening to my body

Conspicious Body

Anna Hawkins' Individualized Master's Thesis

Visual culture and an aesthetics of embodiment

What I Learned From Sex and the City

Better than Real

Uses of the erotic

Nature and Madness

Trauma, Dissociation, And Disorganized Attachment

Learning to be Embodied

 


Learning to be Embodied:
A Recommendation for College Curriculum Transformation

by Michael E. Zimmerman

Insights into our emotions can be effective only if we are capable of noticing what transpires in our bodies. Emotions occur, but they can be overlooked. Hence, embodiment training would involve lots of practice in perceiving bodily states. The capacity to make appropriate discriminations of bodily emotional states could be developed by various kinds of meditation, body work, the Alexander technique, Tai Chi, yoga, and so on. There are many powerful disciplines available. Students simply have to be introduced to them.

Yeah, that seems to be my stumbling block. I'm having a grand time playing in my mind, but I have yet to approach the problem of embodiment with my body. I don't think I'm lazy. I think I'm scared. Scared of failing? Scared of the feeling of my body being tired? As if it's dying? Being physically tired makes me feel like I'm losing my body. Like it is failing, dying. But my body is strong, even without doing anything. I can work hard, physically, doing something that makes other peoples' muscles ache, and I'll wake up the next morning feeling fine. I need to see my body's fatigue as good.

With increased awareness of one's own body, one becomes increasingly aware of the living bodies of others...

This seems important to me, because I'm terrible at fitting my body to someone else's. At rest. If I'm sitting with someone on a bed or a sofa, I'll accidentally hit them with my body, or slam myself into them when I sit, or impose positions on them that their bodies can't accomodate, like trying to bend their elbows and knees in ways they can't go. I think it's a problem with what they call proprioception.

You'd really think I'd be terrible at sex, but I'm not. Sex is like a dance for me, and I know exactly how to do it, no matter who I dance with. For me it's like a ballet. An intricate mirroring, maybe because I'm so tuned into the other person? Or to myself?

Being able to feel means being attuned to the world in a way not disclosable by reason alone. Reason... separate(s) the reasoner from the natural world. Feeling reminds the reasoner that he or she is embodied and thus inextricably related to natural bodily processes. Embodied beings are mortal. Hence, to learn to feel is to learn to be a mortal.

That's important, and it relates to my stumbling block above.

...becoming enlightened does not mean transcending the body but rather means becoming wholly this bodily event...

And I think that's what Marty's trying to tell me when he says to become more aware of my body in motion - when I'm walking, and moving.